Relationships are as-is.

I was watching a show the other day and one of the individuals commented about the fact that relationships are as-is and the simplicity of it really made me pause.

Relationships really are as-is.

The complimentary differences you had at the beginning will be the same ones that may begin to drive you crazy as the years go on.

The areas of continued improvement will vary and change, but the root of them are likely to show up as-is most of the time.

The little quirky traits that you may love to change in partner are going to keep being there regardless.

Now this isn’t to say that you don’t have considerable control around the personal and relational work that you can and do put into your relationships.  And of course, working on yourself over time does help you evolve and show up different.

But what it does say, is that you really need to find ways to embrace (or at least be ok) with your partner as-is.  The more you try to change each other or spend time focusing on what you want to be different vs what you have in front of you will likely be time lost.

Learning to love and accept each other as-is might be one of the greatest tools you have for success in your relationship.

Work to love each other as-is and start to see if it helps your differences become more complimentary and less divisive.

I’m cheering for the two of you.

~ A