Consistently inconsistent

I think one of the cool parts of parenting is when you see your kid showing up consistently in an area of interest AND then you get to see that consistency really begins to pay off.  Success starts to happen.  Growth begins to take root. And the exponential benefit of consistency really starts to build on itself.  That’s where I get to really stand back and be in awe of the power of consistency.

And as cool as it is, there is also another side of consistency.  The consistently inconsistent.  Where the stop and start patterns around change are so frequent that the only constant in the consistent is the inconsistency.

This just kills motivation.  I see it with the couples I work with. Where they’re all in on the plan. They’ve got it mapped out and ready to roll and then they fall back into old habits of not doing and become consistently inconsistent. And not only does it zap motivation, it really rattles trust.

If the only thing you can count on consistently from one another is that you’ll be inconsistent, it does not make you want to lean in and keep trying. 

Remember the systems behind consistency don’t need to be super sophisticated and you can absolutely start small.

Pick one area that you need to improve on and go from there.

Is it being more consistent in real time communication?

Is if following through on expectations you have set for one another?

Is it showing up in the ways you keep telling partner they can count on your for?

Whatever it is, pick one small part of it and start doing it.  Set daily reminders for accountability and follow through.  Start or end your day with a routine of slowing down and checking in so you can be sure to have done what you said you would.

Work your hardest so that the only consistency your relationship experiences is more consistency.

You got this.

~ A