What’s love got to do with it?

I’m sure you’ve heard people say something to the effect of really loving their partner but not liking them that much right now.  Friends say it to friends when they’re venting about their relationships.  Couples say it to me when they come into session.  Sure, it can be normal for the like in your relationship to ebb and flow at times, but it’s also super important to know when it’s dipping a bit too much.  Because sometimes, it’s a statement that can have a lot of weight behind it. 

The truth is, in your relationship it should have a lot of love AND a lot of like.  Because liking your partner is actually the best.

Liking being around them.

Liking spending time with them.

Liking the stories they tell.

Liking the jokes they share.

Liking them as is.

All of the best of things in love.

I encourage you to ask yourself if you’re really liking your partner right now.  And if you’re not, taking a pause to figure out why.  Are the two of you disconnected and not communicating about the stuff that needs to be talked about?  Are you getting annoyed about things that at the end of the day don’t really need an eye roll or a side comment? 

Work to talk it through. Because as important as it is to love each other, it’s also really really important to like each other.

Until next week,

~ A