The inaccurate yes

There are few things that are more disruptive to communication than the inaccurate yes.  You know the one…where you ask partner a question or discuss a plan and they’re all in agreement until a bit of time passes and the ‘yes’ turns into the ‘no’ that should have been said right out the gate.  Yup, that one.

Or the ‘yes’ around an expectation…the “you can count on me”...that really should have been a ‘no’ from the start due to an overpacked schedule and yet it NEVER gets communicated.  And there it  lives in the boneyard of disappointment, resentment and inconsistencies.

Or even worse, the yes that was always a ‘no’ from the beginning, but you’re too nervous, scared or worried about your mate’s reaction and it just becomes a bigger divide between the two of you.

Yup, those are the ones I’m talking about.

Please know that a ‘no’ is infinitely better than an inaccurate yes.  Sure, it’s hard to convey at the onset and your mate may have some feelings around your ‘no’ but trust me, it’s always better than the inaccurate yes.

An honest no allows for clarity in communication.
It demonstrates transparency.
It gives you accurate information.
An honest no is actually quiet trust building.

Take the time to be clear in your communication and slow down to give the honest ‘no’ versus the inaccurate yes.

Your mate and your relationship will thank you for you.

Until next week,

-A

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