When it comes to change, do you have a choice?

My kids’ promotion from 8th grade is happening this week and to say I’m feeling a dozen different emotions all at the same time is an understatement.  I don’t know if it’s a kid thing or a twin thing, but the rapidness and intensity of having two kids move through major milestones at the exact same time is a lot.  Alot alot!

So much change all happening at once.  And for most of us (myself included) change can bring up all sorts of feelings as you anticipate the unknowns on the horizon.

Which has me reflecting on what I should do with all of these feelings around big change.  Is there anything I can actually do with it or do I just need to live with the jittery feelings it gives me?

When it comes to change…is there a choice?

And I’m realizing there sort of is.  I don’t have a choice in the fact that change is happening, even when it’s really exciting change.  But I do have a choice over how much I try to avoid it, control it or embrace it.

And I’m realizing that the way I want to address this change is by embracing it.  The more you avoid the change happening around you, the more numb or disconnected you become from the experience, good or bad. 

The more you try to control it, the more you hold tight to things that really are meant to slip from your fingers and then comes the panicky feelings.  

But the more you lean into change, letting it feel all the ways it’s going to, the more you get to witness and be present to it actually happening.  And that’s my focus during this time of change. To try my best to just be in it and enjoy (and soothe) all the emotions that come up along the way.

Cheers to finding the choice in change.

Until next week,

~ A