You can only change what you’re able to see.

I have many and will continue to have even more areas of my life I need to grow in.  It’s part of being human. We’re never done growing and changing and as soon as we think we’ve got one area mastered, another pops right up.

And I know that work is up to me. To be reflective in the relationships around me.  To listen more than I speak.  To observe more than I insert.

And I also know the self-reflection piece is only part of the puzzle.  You need each other to grow too.  You need the shared insight and feedback from partner to identify your blind spots.  The slowed down ability to let each other know when you’ve overstepped or need to grow a bit more in a certain area.

And this only works if you’re talking about it.  ‘It’ being the hard stuff.  The stuff that needs to change, improve or stop.  The hard feelings around unmet needs or fumbled expectations.  The tough conversations around healing and forgiveness.

Remember, you can’t know what you’re not told.  And you certainly can’t change what you’re not alerted to.  

Take the time in your relationship to not only work on yourself, but to work on the ‘us’.  And all of that begins with communication.  You need to talk about the stuff that needs to look different, in order for it to actually become different.  

Start small but be sure and start.

I’m cheering for you.

Cheers to finding the choice in change.

Until next week,

~ A