Create a spark…together.

Even the smallest of sparks can ignite a fire.  And the smallest of gestures can amplify hope.  I was reminded the other day of just how amazing the simplest of effort can create a giant shift in love.  I think one of the coolest parts about my job is all that I learn and am reminded of by my clients.  And when one of them shared just how surprising it was to notice that a little shift here and a little shift there was creating some big changes in their relationship, I was overwhelmed by the simple statement.  And excited by all the possibilities.

Yes, change takes time and consistency, but it usually doesn’t take massive effort. It takes doing the little things more often. Saying ‘thank you’ in a meaningful way.  Taking an extra moment to greet your mate with a hug and a hello.  Pausing to put down your phone and really ask, ‘how was your day?’.

Sparks are all around you, waiting to be ignited AND putting in the small and simple effort will yield big shifts for the two of you.  Don’t wait until things are so cold and strained before you offer each other some warmth.  Put little sparks into everything you do and it will transform how the two of you show up in love.

Struggling with sparks?  Here’s a quick list to get you started…

* Give a smile and a hello when your mate returns home for the day.

* Genuinely ask how your mate's day was and pause to listen to the answer.

* Offer words of gratitude often.  It feels good to be appreciated for all that we do for each other.

* Nurture each other.  Getting a glass of water? Fill one up for your mate too.  Making a snack? Add a little extra to the plate to share.

* See your mate working on a household task (folding laundry, washing dishes)…jump in and lend a hand.

It’s not hard to create a spark in your relationship and the results will blow you away!

Now get to it…I just know it will benefit the two of you.

Until next week,

-A

P.S. Need some help finding ways to spark change in love? Reach out…that’s exactly what I’m here for. Follow this link to get on my calendar.