What does time really do to wounds?

I’m assuming we’re all in agreement that time doesn’t actually heal all wounds.  But if it doesn’t heal all wounds…what does time actually do?

Well it depends on what you’re doing during that time.

If you’re tending to the wound, time does help.  It allows you to give the hurt attention and also a little space.  It lets you have other experiences that help to grow in around the wound and hopefully become a contrast to what hurt so bad.    And if done well, time can help the wound lessen in its intensity.

Hurt needs your attention, your soothing and some major TLC.  And if you’re doing everything possible to not address it, it can actually start to feel like it’s growing.  Spreading into nooks and crannies you never knew existed.

If trust has been broken and not addressed, time makes it shift into increasing doubt in many areas of your relationship.

If harsh words have been spoken with no repair, time makes them cement in as truths that cause disconnection.

It’s not ever about time actually healing wounds, but more about what you do with the time to heal (or deepen) the wounds…you choose.

Take some time this week to ensure your time is well spent.

You got this.

-A

P.S. If you’re struggling with the passage of time not working in your relationships favor, now might be the time for some additional support.  Reply to this email and let me know how I can help.