Sincerity builds trust

My husband is a really great gift giver.  He has an amazing way of picking out a gift that really means something.  He’s not a big fan of the ol’ holiday wishlist as he wants to be able to put some thought into it and really get something you wouldn’t usually get for yourself or even think you want/need until you receive it and can’t believe how awesome it is.  My daughter picked up this trait from him and I’m pretty impressed by both of their thoughtfulness and sincerity that goes into gift giving.  

Now of course, there have been years where his thoughtfulness was spot on but might not have resonated with me completely.  A kind and well thought out gift that theoretically I would love, but just wasn’t what I was really hoping for.  But because the gift was so sincerely thought out, it meant just as much as if it had been the thing I was hoping for.

And it’s this wholeheartedness that goes into his gift giving that makes me realize how beautiful sincerity is.  When you experience your partner being sincere in their efforts to connect, you want to lean in.  It makes you trust what they’re saying because it’s reinforced by what they’re doing.  And the opposite is true too; when you sense insincerity or inconsistency between what they’re saying versus what they’re doing, you want to lean all the way back out.

Being sincere in how you show up in relationships, especially your partnership, creates connection and grows trust.  Be intentional in your words and sincere in your actions and see how it strengthens the two of you.

I’m cheering for you.

-A

P.S. If your actions and words have lacked sincerity in love, then repair is needed.  Take the time to slow down and acknowledge these wounds so the two of you can heal together.  If additional support is needed, follow this link to my calendar so we can get the conversation started.