Pushing uphill

Stop pushing the boulder up the hill.  Yup, it’s pretty much as simple as that.

We’ve all reached the point of frustration or overwhelm where you throw your hands in the air and think there must be an easier way??  Or where you see everyone around you seemingly doing the thing faster, quicker or better than you could ever manage and wonder why the heck you can’t figure it out.

The truth is that it’s highly likely the boulder you’re trying to push up a hill doesn’t need to be moved.  A lot of times, especially in relationships, when it feels like you’re using all your force to move an obstacle and nothing is happening, is because the obstacles need to be released. 

Go with me for a second. What if you slowed down to really understand your boulder? To see what exactly the mass is you’re messing with.  Is it weighed down with resentment or anger? Is it anchored to things in the past that can’t be changed and definitely not moved uphill?  

Take a little time to dismantle that boulder a bit and you may find that it in fact needs to be released so it can just roll downhill, back to where it belongs.

Do your best to step out of the way, so you don’t get flattened, but work together to notice if the effort you’re putting into pushing that boulder uphill actually can be used towards something that really progresses the two of you forward…together.

I’m cheering for you.

-A

P.S. We all have our own version of the boulder in our relationship.  Your biggest job is defining it together and working to decide if it needs to be pushed up the hill or if you need to step to the side and let it roll away.  Reach out if I can be of support on the push up the hill or letting it roll down alone so the two of you can make more progress together without it trying to drag you down. That’s what I’m here for.