No one but you.

Your primary relationship can either give you the most confidence to move about the world or be the thing that bogs you down with stress and heartache making it hard to concentrate on much else.

The importance of working towards and sustaining a healthy relationship is bigger than pretty much anything else.  When your partnership is thriving, you can make gains in most other areas of your life.  Don’t believe me…do a quick google search and read all the data that supports this.  But that’s not really the point I’m raising today.

What I really want to emphasize today is the immense importance of being responsible to yourself and each other for the work of your relationship.

The truth is this thing that is so precious to the two of you…is wholly determined by the two of you.

The two of you…together…get to make it as great as it can be or work separately and against each other to tear it apart.  No one person can do the work of a relationship AND no one is going to take care of your relationship but the two of you.

Let me say that again…

No one is going to take care of your relationship but the two of you.

No one is going to prioritize it.

No one is going to show up and do the work.

No one is going to be consistent.

No one but the two of you.

Yes, life is busy and stressful, and time is limited and stretched in all directions.  But the work of prioritizing and working in your relationship is only work the two of you can do.

Yes, you can read the books, do the therapy, get the guidance…but the doing…that part is up to the two of you.  Don’t unintentionally release responsibility for the work that can only be done by you two.

I’m cheering you on.

~ A