Is it conflict or just hard communication

As a rule, most people don’t enjoy conflict…especially in their relationships.  Which of course makes perfect sense.  But the problem is that when there has been stress in your communication, a number of things get labeled ‘conflict’ and those that don’t like conflict (i.e. most of us) then start to avoid most communication.  A real negative spin to be in.

Now I get it, when your communication has been conflictual or confrontational, you don’t want to keep doing it.  But looking at all communication as conflict works against your relationship.

Communication is hard and it can look sort of messy. It’s often filled with emotions and honesty and addressing things that need to change.  But that doesn’t mean it is or should be conflictual.  

Communication can be emotional AND mostly grounded.  It can address your needs and still not be critical. It can discuss what needs to change without harping on the past.  

Communication can be hard AND still not filled with conflict.

If you’ve been doing communication pretty confrontational in your relationship, now’s the time to take a step back.  Slow down and really define what feels like conflict in your relationship and lay some ground rules; like taking breaks (and taking a breath).

Work together to get communication out into the open and stop avoiding it for fear of conflict.

You got this.

-A

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