What does connection look like to you?

Couples talk about connection all the time in sessions and because it’s both a feeling and a behavior, it can get pretty tricky to pin down.

Connection, the feeling, is about being understood and accepted by one another.

Connection, the behavior, is about how you act and interact with each other that creates that observable bond.

But how you feel understood and how you interact to create your bond is unique to the two of you.  It’s not something a therapist should or even could come into your relationship and tell you what it needs to look like.

Instead, connection is something the two of you need to define together.

When you feel connected, where in your body do you notice it?
When you feel disconnected, what other emotions are you aware of?
When the two of you are connected, what sort of things are you doing to create that sensation?
What sort of things does your partner do that creates a disconnection?
What behaviors do you do for each other that helps you notice a greater connection?

Take the time to answer these questions.  It will help you better know what connection looks and feels like in your relationship. The added benefit is that it puts the two of you in charge of fostering and safeguarding your connection.

Until next week,

-A

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